MY ideas and bad cactus am I

The cactus that hurt
I really think I am a cactus .
I think I too rigid .After hearing a story of a 2 year relationship who gone sour . I think I just got super rigid .
One is one . I cannot accept one can be a binary code . And they add up to be many things .
I am too RIGID .That is my problem .
In my understanding of love , was always different from other . That why . I never find any .
RELATIONSHIP THAT ARE APPEALING at the outset can turn disaster at with time . The gentle wound of cupid arrows can before a painful thron in a flesh and many who swear by commitment to each other soon find they they are swearing it .
Many Christian really want to experience the uniquesness of a christian home , they ‘re unware of non christian pressure of our culture that greatly ,weaken the desire . All too often , they developed spiritual discrememt . their ship are blown off course by prevailing cultural winds.
My term of courtship is simple , hour talking each other . And relationship was should be marked by lack of physical involvement (not lack of physical attraction) ,get to know each other gaols , dreams , and background
The world know little of this kind of love – the variety said that I know you well – your strength and your faults – and I accept you anyway .”
What are the values of the nations now?
Our culture exerts a strong pill on our lives that we can easily brainwashed into the following the pattern around us , only to arrive on the other side of altar with a ho hum marriage .
God warns us ,” Do not learn the way of nations .. for the customs ofpeople are worthless .(Jeremiah 10:2-3)
What are the ways I seen
Living for the momet .
The philosophy in living for the moment is everywhere . You only go around once in life , so grab for all the gusto you can get .” If it feel good , do it “ If you are angry , explode and you will feel better .James said ,” You lutst and do not have ; so you commit murder( James 4:2) meaning that you fulfill your passions immediately , even if you have to sacfire another person welfare.
Many people takem a bite of right now apple ,howerever . they found after marriage that when their initial attraction wore off .They had five difficult years of financial woes , small children and martial counseling have demonstrated t to them the repercussion of living for the pleasure of moment .
I guess why some pastor refuse to marry2 people have not been seriously courting for at least six months . It SIMPLY TAKE TIME TO KNOW SOMEONE .ian , t If one had know each other longer with the complication of physical involvement , they might avoid a disappointing marriage
For Christian , divorce is unthinkable because the scripture teaches the marriage is a symbolic picture of Christ union with his bride , The church (Ephesians 5:23)
In spite of our unfaithfulness as the bride , he is committed to us for eternity . Based on that relationship , DIVORcE IS NOT AN OPTION FOR 2 believers ; to entertain the possibility means you shouldn’t thinking of marriage . To a culture ,that live for amooment and marries for the moment , the Christian concept of lifelong commitment to one person stand in sharp contract .
God is capable of bringing the right person into your life – on his timetable , not ours . When it come to dating , courtship and marriage , the stakes are simply too high to live for the moment .
Living for sensual .
In the book Open Marriage , Broken Marriage .
There were these couples I know . They were open . They were honest . They were having affairs . They were not sneaking around(applause) , they were not lying( applause) , they were being honest (whistles) . They were open . Everybody agreed that it was wonderful . The men agreed , and the women agreed and I agreed and it all made you wonder . Then they split . There was something wrong . In variable someone wouldn’t take it . It had nothing to do with head . The head understood . It was the heart , it was, you should p pardon the expression ,BROKEN.
It all made you think . It made you think that maybe there are things we still don’t know about men and woman and maybe before we spit in th eye of tradition we ought to know what we are doing . I have some theroies and one of them is that one of the ways you measure love is not with words , but with a action , with commitment and with what you are willingly to give up , with what you are willing to share with none else.
Thie world has shortsignted ,painfully inadequate understanding of all that God meant sex to be .Sex involves all that you are as a person brought together with another whole person to reflect the complete oneness of Christ , and his bride ,the church . God devoted one book in bible ,Songs of Songs(Song of Solomo) primarily to a descrption of the height of physical enjoyment possible in married love.
What is marriage .
A man shall leave his father and mother . Severance
And shall cleave to his wife . Permanence
They become one flesh . Unity
And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed . Initimacy
God doesn’t offer any alternatives lifestyles in marriage . His intention in bringing a man and a woman together is that they establish a new family that is not merely an extension of their parental homes . They are to be bound together spirituality , psychologically , emotionally and physically as long as they live.